Finding the Right Therapist for Your Child: A Guide for Long Island Families

Today’s children face an overwhelming amount of challenges unique to their generation. These include social media, constant distractions, family disruptions, and the merging of social worlds with technology. Parents today did not grow up with these challenges. They often struggle to understand how to best support their child, even with the best intentions. This has led to a significant increase in the number of children seeking mental health support.

In fact, a 2022 CDC report indicated that over 15% of children aged 3-17 had received mental health treatment in the past year. From 2011 to 2021, the rates of youth who persistently felt sad or hopeless increased from 21% to 29% for teen boys and from 36% to 57% for teen girls. This trend is clearly reflected in communities across Long Island.

Understanding the Increased Demand for Mental Health Support

Several trends contribute to the rising demand for mental health support among children:

• Increased Awareness and Reduced Stigma: There is a growing understanding of mental health issues in children. The stigma associated with seeking help is decreasing, encouraging more families to pursue treatment.

  
  

• Social Media Impact: The pervasive nature of social media exposes children to cyberbullying, unrealistic comparisons, and constant social pressure. This can negatively impact their mental well-being.

  
  

• Academic and Societal Pressures: Children face immense pressure to succeed academically and navigate complex social dynamics. This leads to increased stress and anxiety.

  
  

• Family Dynamics: Changes in family structures, economic uncertainties, and parental stress can contribute to children's mental health challenges.

  
  

• Accessibility of Information: The internet provides more information about mental health conditions. This leads to greater self-identification and a desire for professional help.

  
  

Finding the right therapist for your child is a challenge that requires careful consideration. With so many options across Long Island, how can one choose the best fit?

How Can You Find The Right Fit For Your Child?

Referrals

Start by reaching out to your social or familial circle. Someone you know may have experience with a youth therapist. If they can vouch for a professional, this can save you time in your search.

Another healthy option is to consult with your child’s school psychologist, social worker, or guidance counselor. Experienced school counselors can often provide resources and referrals to reputable child and adolescent therapists in your area.

Ask Questions

Once you have a potential therapist in mind, it's important to ask some key questions. Many answers may be available on the therapist’s website or online profile, so do some research before making the call.

Some good questions to ask are:

• What is the therapist’s background and training in working with children?

• How long have they been in practice?

• Do they specifically work with children your child's age?

• How often do they meet with parents?

• Will they be in contact with your child’s teacher or guidance counselor?

• What are their thoughts about medication?

  
  

Understanding the therapist’s values, experience, and training is crucial.

Find a Specialty Right for Your Child

Counselors employ various strategies depending on the child's age and specific issues. For example, Play Therapy uses toys, action figures, games, and art to help younger children express themselves. This method works best for pre-K or elementary school-aged children facing emotional challenges.

Other options include Group Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Family Therapy, and Behavioral Therapy. Each approach has different purposes and methods to achieve specific results.

Most importantly, find someone your child trusts. Without a strong bond of trust, it is difficult for your child to fully engage in the therapeutic process. Being knowledgeable about a therapist’s specialty, values, and approach will help you make an informed decision. This can set your family on the path to mental health and harmony.

The Role of Parental Involvement

Your involvement is crucial to your child's treatment. You know your child best and can discern who would be a good fit for them. Stay engaged with their treatment and discuss it openly with your child. A parent's participation plays a critical role in a child’s therapy experience, especially for younger children. However, it remains essential regardless of age. You should and must be involved.

Additional Resources for Long Island Families

If you have more questions, our expert clinicians are available to discuss any concerns you may have. We have many clinicians who specialize in working with children and teens right here on the North Shore of Long Island. Contact us today for a complimentary consultation.

Finding the Right Therapist for Your Child: A Guide for Long Island Families

Written by Founder and Director, Gordon Gooding, LCSW and Lauren Gooding.

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1. CDC Youth Risk Behavior Survey, cited by NYS Office of Mental Health