"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." - Brene Brown
It’s natural for a relationship to be slightly out of balance once in a while, when one person might need a bit more support while going through a difficult time. Eventually, though, the relationship equalizes and both parties are supportive of each other in a healthy way.
When relationships remain out of balance, or never were in balance, though, an unhealthy dynamic exists for both parties. No one should feel guilty for tending to their own needs or rely on the happiness or contentment of someone else to decide their happiness. In codependent relationships, though, this is exactly what happens.
When codependency is left untreated, it can lead to severe depression and anxiety. The behaviors that lead to codependent relationships are typically learned which means that, with the right support and guidance, those behaviors can be unlearned. Through talk therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), that are focused on recognizing thought patterns and changing the reactions and behaviors that result, new patterns can take their place, eventually resulting in healthier relationships.
In cases where substance abuse plays a role, a sobriety and recovery plan are necessary. Typically, this is accomplished with individual therapy in combination with a 12-step program. In order for both parties to unlearn behaviors, though, couples or family therapy yield the best result.
In each of these cases, we have clinicians who specialize in these types of therapies and recoveries.With the right support, relationships can heal and new, healthier patterns can emerge.